If you are like many couples today who are looking for something a little more adventurous, you have probably wondered how you can get started in the swingers lifestyle. There are more and more couples looking to spice up their relationship and swinging is a great way to do it, but there are a few caveats to be aware of. Before you decide to start swinging make sure you and your partner are completely secure in your relationship and lay down strict rules that you both will adhere to under any circumstance. If you can do just these two things then you will have a great time in the lifestyle without ever hurting your partner’s feelings. Remember, communication is the cornerstone to any good relationship and the same goes for swinging.
The easiest way to get started meeting other swingers is via the internet. There are many websites out there that promote swingers dating, but very few that are actually any good. You need to choose a site that has been around for several years and has good customer support to help you with any issues that may arise. The best swingers sites will also have plenty of pictures, videos and very few fake profiles. There are free swingers sites out there but for the most part they are full of fakes and they will be a big waste of your time. In the arena of swingers websites you definitely get what you pay for. The most important thing is to be honest when setting up your online profile and only use current and clear pictures of yourself. Since privacy is an important issue it is OK to either use photos that don’t show your face or use photo editing software to remove your face. The worst thing you can do is lie about your age, weight or any other factors that will eventually be exposed when you meet up with other couples. The best rule of thumb is to always be honest.
The next best way to get started is to go out to one of the local swinger’s clubs in your city. This can be a little intimidating at first but just be yourself and initiate conversation with a few people and before you know it you’ll be making new friends. You will find that swinger’s are some of the friendliest people you will ever meet. In fact some of the people you already know are probably in the lifestyle, so be prepared if you see them in the club. Most swingers clubs are BYOB so make sure you bring a bottle of your favorite alcohol and drop it off either at the entrance or with the bartender depending on the club rules. Once you meet another couple or single you like you have two options, you can either go into the on site playrooms or leave and go to a hotel or your house. Both of these are good options and you’ll figure out which one works best for you.
Once you have been active in the lifestyle for a little while you will probably start receiving invitations to private house parties. These types of parties are great because it is a more relaxed setting and it is generally a more comfortable environment than a club. These types of swingers parties operate like any other normal party with one exception; if you find another couple you are attracted to you can head off to one of the bedrooms with each other. You can also find private parties listed in Craigslist or other social networking sites such as yahoo groups.
Types of Swingers
Now that you know how to meet other swingers you need to know the different types of swinger’s. The soft swing is generally the best way to get started. The same room soft swing is when two couples are intimate in the same room with their own partner. Girl on girl only is when the girls get together and play while the guys either sit on the sideline or play with their own partner at the same time. The soft wife swap is when couples switch partners mainly for oral stimulation and then go back to their partner for full intimacy. These types of swingers make up a large part of those in the lifestyle and the soft swing is a great way to get started. The more advanced swingers usually go for the full swap where partners are fully exchanged. No matter how you decide to get started swinging don’t be afraid to ask more experienced swingers for advice. The swinging lifestyle is certainly not for everyone, but it can be very fulfilling and provide a lifetime of fun for you and your partner.