Are you obsessed with Facebook? I have clients wondering if they are. Certain people definitely are, which keeps me wondering how did we survive the times where Facebook wasn’t yet on everyone’s daily schedule? Let’s have a look at Facebook obsession and its pro and cons.
Are you obsessed with Facebook?
There are a couple of good indications that you are obsessed:
- I’m checking Facebook every day and I’m basically logged in as soon as the computer is on.
- I’m spending at least 30 minutes each day checking what’s been happening, browsing through other people’s pages etc. Most days it would be more like 1-2 hours.
- I have been visiting (stalking) ex boy/girlfriends’ pages to find out what they are up to.
- I’m trying to find friends by all possible means to get as many friends as I can.
- I’m staying in contact with my friends using Facebook.
- I rarely use emails and instead, message friends on Facebook.
- I check Facebook before I check my emails.
- When my company banned Facebook I went out to buy an iPhone just so I could check Facebook. I probably used other justifications to buy it but that was my main reason.
- I wonder how I can survive a holiday in a country without Facebook.
- I can’t believe if I meet someone and they say they are not on Facebook and I definitely will try and convince them or at least send them an invite.
If you answered yes to more than three but less than five of the statements above it’s very likely that you’ve become quite focused on Facebook, if you answered yes to more than five statements you enter into the obsession category.
Your brain on computers
Scientists say juggling email, phone calls and other incoming information (like on Facebook) can change how people think and behave. They say our ability to focus is being undermined by bursts of information.
These activities, and Facebook is one of them, play to a primitive impulse to respond to immediate opportunities and threats. This stimulus provokes excitement – a dopamine squirt – that researchers say can be addictive. In its absence people feel bored.
Whether users hide behind justifications, it is a fact that the use of social media and Facebook, being one of them, has brought people together and supported them in staying in contact with old friends which otherwise wouldn’t happen. Facebook users have re-connected with old school friends, long lost family members or friends with whom they lost contact with over time and this network allows them to keep each other up-to-date without having to write lengthy letters, emails or make phone calls.
If you have observed a pattern of obsession in your use of Facebook or in fact any other activity you want to honestly consider the costs that you pay and what the effect is on your overall health, social interactions and emotional state.